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Sex on the First Date

Lifestyle segment with Shejackiesays


Everyone’s heard the rule: don’t sleep with someone new until the third date. Whether it was a TV show, a friend who serves as your dating guru, or the radio talk show host you listen to (despite not really liking them), someone, at some point, has drilled this rule into your head.

While most of yall seems to know this rule, those who actually follow it are much fewer—.So if more people are okay with first-date sex than not, why do we still treat it as taboo?

Part of it, says sexpert April Masini : is the potential it creates for unmet expectations.

“I hear from women who have sex on the first date, and then try to leverage that act into love,” says Masini. “They impute their feelings about the sex on a first date onto the other person. And those who feel that sex on a first date means interest are often hurt if a second date doesn’t evolve.”

If you like someone and want to date them but they don’t feel the same, of course that’s going to sting. Having had sex with that person might make it sting a little more, but that doesn’t mean having sex necessarily makes another person less likely to want to date you, or that it can singlehandedly turn a nice person into a callous one.🤔

When people talk about having sex ‘too early,’ I think what that means is they found out someone was a jerk ‘too early,’” says Dirty Lola, If they stopped talking to you because you had sex with them the first night, they were going to stop talking to you after the fifth date when you thought it was special and lit candles and had sex, and then it’ll be worse for you because you’re more attached. I don’t think it has anything to do with ‘too early.’”

In other words, a wolf in sheep’s clothing is still a wolf no matter when you take its clothes off. If someone’s into you, they’ll text you back, and if they’re not? The stakes needn’t be as high as they once were

In the frequently nonsensical world of love and sex, a rule like “don’t have sex on the first date” can feel comforting. But that’s just not how things usually work. So the next time you’re on a really great first date, and you’re into each other, and you both want to have sex, there’s no need to feel like you’re breaking dating law.

“It’s okay if you like someone or you’re just plain old attracted to them,” says Lola. “If you want to get down, that’s totally fine.


  1. Afia Nyarko Fobi

    Hmm I think it’s little more save to study the person for sometime .. human beings per say can not control ourselves from doing what is not proper right from Eden’s (Adams and Eve) thus why you said few people are able to obey that because it’s many who can’t even obey God even the laws of our land. In my part of the world sleeping with a guy in the first date will mean you are not a wife material for 80% of the men…

      1. Nana ama

        Hmm well for me I won’t say it’s a big deal tho but I wouldn’t practice it too…I had an experience when I started dating my boyfriend(current)..He asked for it on our first date but I turned him down and to my uttermost surprise he told me along the line that if I had done it with me he wouldn’t have continued the relationship!!!We are all different people with different ideas and perceptions about sex so I think every individual and how they’d go about it.

  2. Prince Isaac

    Well for me there is nothing wrong with sex on the first date……Some girls will make u wait and when u finally get to get down with them they end up being something else yet those u have sex with on the first date end up better. I think it all boils down to how u feel about each other. This has actually made some people leave those who would have been great partners for worse ones just because the former had sex with them on the first date. If you think a girl is cheap for sleeping with u on the first date then how honourable are u too as the guy since sex involves two people?

  3. Prince Isaac

    Let me add this quickly, we live in a society(Ghana) where sex is only allowed in marriage therefore whether u have sex on your first date or 100th date, the basic thing remains the same..It’s premarital sex and it makes u no different from the one who did it on the first date…..Some even tend to reach orgasm(climax) more in the first date sex.LOL

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